Are We Teaching Our Kids To Be Fearful of Men?

Are We Teaching Our Kids To Be Fearful of Men?

By Jeff Zaslow

When children get lost in a mall, they're supposed to find a "low-risk adult" to help them. Guidelines issued by police departments and child-safety groups often encourage them to look for "a pregnant woman," "a mother pushing a stroller" or "a grandmother."

The implied message: Men, even dads pushing strollers, are "high-risk."

Are we teaching children that men are out to hurt them? The answer, on many fronts, is yes. Child advocate John Walsh advises parents to never hire a male babysitter. Airlines are placing unaccompanied minors with female passengers rather than male passengers. Soccer leagues are telling male coaches not to touch players.

Child-welfare groups say these are necessary precautions, given that most predators are male. But fathers' rights activists and educators now argue that an inflated predator panic is damaging men's relationships with kids. Some men are opting not to get involved with children at all, which partly explains why many youth groups can't find male leaders, and why just 9% of elementary-school teachers are male, down from 18% in 1981.

People assume that all men "have the potential for violence and sexual aggressiveness," says Peter Stearns, a George Mason University professor who studies fear and anxiety. Kids end up viewing every male stranger "as a potential evildoer," he says, and as a byproduct, "there's an overconfidence in female virtues." . . .

TV shows, including the Dateline NBC series "To Catch a Predator," hype stories about male abusers. Now social-service agencies are also using controversial tactics to spread the word about abuse. This summer, Virginia's Department of Health mounted an ad campaign for its sex-abuse hotline. Billboards featured photos of a man holding a child's hand. The caption: "It doesn't feel right when I see them together."

More than 200 men emailed complaints about the campaign to the health department. "The implication is that if you see a man holding a girl's hand, he's probably a predator," says Marc Rudov, who runs the fathers' rights site TheNoNonsenseMan.com. "In other words, if you see a father out with his daughter, call the police." . . .

Mr. Walsh, host of Fox's "America's Most Wanted," began advocating for missing children in 1981, after his son was killed by a stranger. He knows some men are offended by his advice to never hire a male babysitter. But as he sees it, if a teenage boy wants to experiment with sex, you don't want him using your kids.

Um, hasn't Mr. Walsh seen the many stories (even just here in the Detroit area) of adult women preying on teen-age boys for sex? Come on. Wake up. Women are becoming just as predatory as we're taught to believe men are.

"It's not a witch hunt," he says. "It's all about minimizing risks. What dog is more likely to bite and hurt you? A Doberman, not a poodle. Who's more likely to molest a child? A male."

John Walsh says men are now Dobermans?! (Except him, of course.) Sounds like he's been watching too much Oprah and "The View."

Airlines use similar reasoning when they seat unaccompanied minors only with women. They are trying to decrease the odds of a problem. Certainly, many men would be safe seatmates for kids, but sometimes, especially on overnight flights in darkened cabins, "you have to make generalizations for the safety of a child," says Diana Fairechild, an expert witness in aviation disputes. Airlines have had decades of experience monitoring the gender of abusive seatmates, she adds, quoting a line repeated in airline circles: "No regulation in aviation takes effect without somebody's blood on it."

I think I smell a perfectly justified class-action gender-discrimination lawsuit against airlines.

Most men understand the need to be cautious, so they're willing to take a step back from children, or to change seats on a plane. One abused child is one too many. Still, it's important to maintain perspective. "The number of men who will hurt a child is tiny compared to the population," says Benjamin Radford, who researches statistics on predators and is managing editor of the science magazine Skeptical Inquirer. "Virtually all of the time, if a child is lost or in trouble, he will be safe going to the nearest male stranger."

Right on, Jeff Zaslow. If only America's conventional wisdom was actually infused with this kind of common sense.

Posted by Debbie at August 23, 2007 10:19 AM

Comments

'Women are becoming just as predatory as we're taught to believe men are.'

What a ridiculous (I'm being polite here) comment. Despite the reports in the media of women seducing teenage boys, they hardly equal the amount of sex crimes (on adults and children) committed by men. This is just retarded conservative propaganda run amok.

"[Adam Walsh] knows some men are offended by his advice to never hire a male babysitter."

Howard Stern gives the same advice. It's just common sense.

You conservatives really kill me some times. Many of you like to say Christians aren't as bad as Muslims or that Whites don't commit as much crime as Blacks, but when it comes to sex or violent crimes, conservatives are the first to say Women are as bad as Men. Conservatives are real idiots at times.

Posted by: jaillibby2 at August 23, 2007 11:39 AM

jaillibby2

You are wrong about women not being involved in sex crimes. It is just the statistics have not been reported in the past.

The equality movement is finally biting them in the ass and the statistics prove it now that LE is recording female sex crimes.

The vast majority of sexual assaults by school teachers are committed by females.
http://www.wnd.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=53824

Posted by: ScottyDog at August 23, 2007 12:47 PM

Small list of women offenders:

High school coach resigns after sexual assault arrest
http://www.khou.com/news/local/stories/khou070215_tnt_hsarrest.401b8e0.html
Kimberly Dawn Hollis has now resigned from Hightower High School in Fort Bend County after confessing to having sexual conduct with a 15-year-old-girl

Female Coach Allegedly Had Relationship with Player
http://abclocal.go.com/wpvi/story?section=local&id=3526747
A female high school coach is facing serious charges. She's accused of having a relationship with a player on her team who was just 14-years-old! This case is unfolding in Nazareth, Northampton County.

Ex-coach accused of endangerment
http://www.thedailystar.com/news/stories/2007/07/14/pblaurenscoach5.html
LAURENS _ The former girls softball coach at Laurens Central School has been accused of having an inappropriate relationship with a child younger than 17.

Counselor Sentenced For Having Sex With Autistic Student
http://www.theindychannel.com/news/10716523/detail.html
Becci M. Hill, of Martinsville, was accused of having a sexual relationship with the 15-year-old, whom she had mentored at one point, according to authorities. She was a special-needs counselor with the Wayne Township school district in Indianapolis.

Counselor-In-Training Convicted Of Sexual Abuse
http://cbs2chicago.com/topstories/local_story_215170720.html
Maywood Court Associate Judge Gilbert J. Grossi convicted Kathy Miraglia, in her 30s, of two counts of criminal sexual abuse and eight counts of criminal sexual assault during a bench trial Thursday, according to a Cook County State�s Attorney�s office spokeswoman

Oregon woman sentenced for having sex with high school boy
http://www.oregonnews.com/article/20070111/NEWS/70111005/0/news
KLAMATH FALLS, Ore. (AP) � A 34-year-old woman will spend a month in jail after admitting she had sex with a teenager she counseled at Klamath Union High School.

Teacher Allegedly Had Oral Sex With Girl At School
http://www.wftv.com/news/12525646/detail.html?rss=orlc&psp=news
The former soccer and softball coach is accused of the unthinkable, having sex with a female student on campus during school hours

Teacher turns herself in on sex charges
http://www.wcnc.com/news/topstories/stories/wcnc-080807-krg-teacher_sex.1561fe31.html
HUNTERSVILLE, N.C. -- A former Charlotte-Mecklenburg Schools teacher surrendered to police Wednesday after she was accused of having an inappropriate relationship with a female student.

Student Testifies About Sexual Relationship With Teacher
http://www.click2houston.com/news/10882250/detail.html
Shanikka Campbell, 26, pleaded guilty to three counts of sexual abuse of a child on Monday.

The former Aldine Independent School District English teacher admitted to having sex with a 16-year-old 11th-grade student she met at Carver High School last Spring

Jailed teacher in sex case fired, remains silent
23-year-old middle school instructor in S.C. accused of sex with five boys
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17388278/

Teacher, Alleged Sex Victim Did Witchcraft
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,140486,00.html
SOUTH HAVEN, Mich. � A teacher and a 14-year-old former female student whom she is accused of sexually assaulting participated in witchcraft together and even "wed" in a pagan ritual, police said.

Elizabeth Miklosovic (search), 36, a teacher at South Haven's Baseline Middle School, was arraigned Thursday on a charge of first-degree criminal sexual conduct

Woman charged with sexual assault
http://www.nwanews.com/nwat/News/51156/
A 19-year-old Fayetteville woman was charged Thursday by the Fourth Judicial District Prosecutor�s Office for having sexual contact with a 13-year-old girl.

Three Women Accused Of Sexual Abuse Of 16-Year-Old Boy
Teen Being Cared For At Group Home
http://www.nbc4.com/newsarchive/10891638/detail.html
Police said that through their investigation, they learned that Koreene Avery, 38, and Robin Lawrence, 24, both counselors at the M.S. Youth Services group home, also were having sex with the boy at the home.

Posted by: eloopd at August 23, 2007 01:29 PM

The cautionary approach suggested in the post parrallels the cautionary approach that is offered when discussing males of Arab/Muslim descent.

It is OK to be cautious of male Arab/Muslims as potential terrorists.

It is OK to be cautious of male adults as potential pedophiles.

The closest arguement for/against is that it depends on their actions. Recent news accounts offer a picture of two Arab/Muslim looking guys on a ferry 'acting suspicious.' Then what of the coach who pats a kid on the behind and leaves his hand there an inordinate amount of time. And, what is an inordinate amount of time? I don't know.

I really don't know. I am going to take each case one at a time and avoid jumping to conclusions before I have a greater knowledge of the situation. Then if the situation merits, I'll put my foot up the pedophile's and terrorist's behind.

OK, that's being a man, and you don't have to worry, because I am out there, (and there are alot of us) and I got your back if it is a pedophile or terrorist.

Posted by: zyzzyg at August 23, 2007 01:30 PM

@ Jaillibby

"Many of you like to say Christians aren't as bad as Muslims or that Whites don't commit as much crime as Blacks.."

First of all how many Christian acts of terror do you know about since 9/11? Guess how many Terror acts in the name of Islam have been committed in that same amount of time? How about more than 9,000.

http://www.thereligionofpeace.com/

Next you say:

"Whites don't commit as much crime as Blacks.."

The US Department of Justice would like to argue that point with you.

Blacks are 7 times more likely to murder someone than whites and 9 times more likely to committ any violent crime.

http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/welcome.html

http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/homicide/race.htm

Posted by: sickboy at August 23, 2007 01:55 PM

As a Black male in America, I graduated from Harvard with a degree in physics and computer science. As a senior, we were required to complete a research project. I completed mine on black americans and the relationship to incarceration, the one factor that stood above all, was the fact the black males that were in jail for greater than 1 year had a greater than 90% chance of have a negative or no role model. Almost all had a female dominated household that taught that being a male was negative.

Posted by: Dallas1972 at August 23, 2007 08:33 PM

Thanks for supprting us men, Debbie. Have you heard of the site www.mediaradar.org. Respecting accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting. It discussing the discrimination towards men and basically they are taught to view every family problem as the man 100% bad abuser and women 100% good victim and most family problems that is not the situation. A man is physically bigger that is true but this should make him automatically guilty. Can a younger brother or sister can do what they want to a bigger older brother or sister? Of course not. They also use their services to brainwash women that everything is a guys faut and if a women doesn't share their views they can harm her too. Feminist don't believe in different ideas especially from other women.

I also have to say in the Orthodox Jewish world at least in NY metro area the things that are said about Jewish men are just horrible and mostly untrue. I have been a victim (in many different area's) of the hatred that goes on in many Orthodox circles towards men. The Rabbi's are very naive at best because they work in a field that has no women so they many times have an exaggerated sense that women are vunerable and believe anything they say about men. My only family situation thank g-d has become somewhat better but you know my parents invite my younger sister every Jewish holiday and don't rotate since my parents are unable to deal with the two of us together. Doesn't anybody say anything? Not that I know. And outside where I grew up I have had people tell me they would throw me up of the community if I mention my family situation even if it is just to get advice and to try to improve which without anyone's help it has become somewhat better. I spend most Jewish holidays alone because I don't feel comfortable with the male hatred that some Rabbi's preach which of course they are the exception. This is in Orthodox Judaism. An Aish Rabbi once wrote me that divorce is all the man's fault because women have more intuition when I and many others complained about an article that specifically picked on men. Claims this is torah. I am only mentioning two area's but I have the same vicious behavior towards me in other areas too when I have dealt with Orthodox Jews in any area they for the slightest thing they think you are a monster. I know it isn't everyone but too many seem to fit this mode and it has scared me away from being involved in Orthodox Jewish life.
Adam

What I believe . . . . from NPR

I believe that Fathers make a difference.

My earliest coherent memories are of my Father. I recall him telling me and my brother to always tell the truth, and to share books. Whatever he told us, he himself lived. My father was a good man, and what I know about being a good man, I learned from my father. Fathers make a difference because they set examples.

My father bought us tinker toys, tin airplanes, and cap pistols. He took us everywhere he went: to work (he was a sanitary engineer), to the midway, on train rides. He taught us how to fish. He grew up in West Texas, and he made sure that we learned how to ride. He sang Hank Williams songs to us. He took us to cowboy movies. Fathers make a difference because they appreciate the importance of fun.

There were times, when I was growing up, that I found the going tough and simply wanted to quit whatever I was doing. My father always managed to arrange to keep me going. One day, at the end of my senior year at Stanford, I called him to tell him that I was not going to graduate. He spoke to every one of my teachers and found out what it would take to get me through. He commissioned my brother to keep an eye on me while I did what would take. I graduated. Fathers make a difference because they have an abiding interest in their children's strivings.

When I went off to graduate school at the University of Texas, my father went down to Austin with me to help me find a place to live. Then he went back home to Dallas. If he ever worried about my making my way in this world after that, he never mentioned it to me. Fathers make a difference because they know how to say “Fare thee well” to their children, and really mean it.

The truth is, I am writing not so much about fathers as to fathers. I hope that you who are fathers will hew to what is essential in fathering. The brand of baby food you buy your son is small stuff; that you are there when he is learning to ride a bike is immensely important. That your daughter goes to school without her mittens is small stuff; that you are there to talk to her boyfriend is immensely important. That you sit down to dinner with your children is immensely important. That you are there to take them up a mountain that they don't think they can climb is immensely important. It is immensely important that you stick up for them when they need to establish their independence from their peers, from the authorities or even from their mother.

If nothing else, Woody Allen's words apply to fatherhood with a vengeance. He said, “Eighty percent of success is showing up.” This I believe.

BOOKS ON MEN'S ISSUES . . . . .

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BUSED MEN & BOYS

The Abuse of Men : Trauma Begets Trauma- Barbara Jo Brothers

Wounded Boys, Heroic Men: A Man's Guide to Recovering from Child Abuse- Daniel Jay Sonkin

Abused Men : The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence-Philip W. Cook

Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse-by Mic Hunter

Broken Boys / Mending Men: Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse- Stephen D. Grubman-Black

Alone and Forgotten : The Sexually Abused Man- Rod Tobin

In Cabin Six : An Anthology of Poetry by Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse- Jill A. Kuhn

1. A Child Called "It": One Child's Courage to Survive

2. The Lost Boy: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family

3. A Man Called Dave: A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness- Dave Pelzer

Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men- Richard B. Gartner

Domestic Violence: The 12 Things You Aren't Supposed to Know- Thomas B. James

Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse- Mike Lew

Leaping upon the Mountains: Men Proclaiming Victory over Sexual Child Abuse- Mike Lew, Richard Hoffman

Violence and Gender Reexamined- Richard B. Felson

Legalizing Misandry: From Public Shame to Systemic Discrimination Against Men

Volume II in the trilogy, Beyond the Fall of Man - Paul Nathanson and Katherine K. Young

Spreading Misandry : The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture

Volume I in the trilogy, Beyond the Fall of Man - Paul Nathansen and Katherine K. Young

The Minds of Boys : Saving Our Sons From Falling Behind in School and Life - Michael Gurian

WHY GENDER MATTERS: What Parents and Teachers Need to Know about the Emerging Science of Sex Differences - Leonard Sax, Ph.D., M.D.

Domestic Violence: The 12 Things You Aren't Supposed to Know - Thomas B. James

Insult to Injury: Rethinking our Responses to Intimate Abuse - Linda G. Mills

THE IMPORTANCE OF MEN TEACHERS:

And Reasons Why There Are So Few- Bryan G. Nelson

Violence and Gender Reexamined- Richard B. Felson

Spreading Misandry : The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture

Volume I in the trilogy, Beyond the Fall of Man- Paul Nathansen

Real Men or Real Teachers? - Paul Sargent

Boys and Girls Learn Differently - Michael Gurian

When She Was Bad : Violent Women & the Myth of Innocence- Patricia Pearson

A Circle of Men: The Original Manual for Men's Support Groups- Bill Kauth

Mythopoetic Perspectives of Men's Healing Work : An Anthology for Therapists and Others -
Edward Read Barton

ADDICTION

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction - Patrick J. Carnes

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior - Patrick Carnes

The Clinton Syndrome : The President and the Self-Destructive Nature of Sexual Addiction - Jerome David Levin Ph.D.

Bill W.: A Biography of Alcoholics Anonymous Cofounder Bill Wilson -Francis Hartigan

Ebby: The Man Who Sponsored Bill W. - Mel B.

Gambling Addiction: The Problem, the Pain and the Path to Recovery - John M. Eades

The Gambling Addiction Patient Workbook - Robert R. Perkinson

BOYS

The Minds of Boys: Saving Our Sons From Falling Behind in School and Life - Michael Gurian

Angry Young Men: How Parents, Teachers, and Counselors Can Help Bad Boys Become Good Men - Aaron R. Kipnis

The War Against Boys - Christina Hoff Sommers

The Good Son: Shaping the Moral Development of Our Boys and Young Men - Michael Gurian

Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different-And How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men - Steve Biddulph

Raising Cain : Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys - Daniel J. Kindlon, Michael Thompson, Dan Kindlon, Dan Kindion

Lost Boys : Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them - James Garbarino

Real Boys : Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood -William Pollack

A Fine Young Man : What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can Do to Shape Adolescent Boys into Exceptional Men -Michael Gurian

As Nature Made Him: The Boy Who Was Raised As A Girl - John Colapinto

The Wonder of Boys : What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can Do to Shape Boys into Exceptional Men -Michael Gurian

CIRCUMCISION

Marked In Your Flesh: Circumcision From Ancient Judea To Modern America - Leonard B. Glick

A Surgical Temptation : The Demonization of the Foreskin and the Rise of Circumcision in Britain - Robert Darby

What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Circumcision: Untold Facts on America's Most Widely Performed-and Most Unnecessary Surgery - Paul M. Fleiss, Frederick M. Hodges

As Nature Made Him: The Boy Who Was Raised As A Girl - John Colapinto

Circumcision: The World’s Most Controversial Surgery -David L. Gollaher

Circumcision Exposed : Rethinking a Medical and Cultural Tradition -Billy Ray Boyd

Questioning Circumcision: A Jewish Perspective - Ronald Goldman

Circumcision, The Hidden Trauma: How an American Cultural Practice Affects Infants and Ultimately Us All - Ronald Goldman

Sex As Nature Intended It: The Most Important Thing You Need to Know About Making Love, but No One Could Tell You Until Now - Kristen O'Hara, Jeffrey O'Hara

FATHERING

The Good Father: On Men, Masculinity, and Life In the Family - Mark O'Connell, Ph.D.

The Spirit of Fatherhood: Embracing Our Role as Fathers and Reclaiming Our Children - S. Bruce "Olamina" Stevenson

In Search Of Fatherhood-transcending Boundaries: International Conversations On Fatherhood - Diane A. Sears

Fatherneed: Why Father Care Is As Essential As Mother Care for Your Child - Kyle D. Pruett

The Wonder of Boys : What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can Do to Shape Boys into Exceptional Men - Michael Gurian

The Wonder of Girls: Understanding the Hidden Nature of Our Daughters - Michael Gurian

Fatherloss : How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms With the Deaths of Their Dads - Neil Chethik

Father and Child Reunion - Warren Farrell

25 Secrets of Emotionally Intelligent Fathers - Mark Brandenburg

60 Tips for Fathers to Create Happy, Connected, and Responsible Kids - Mark Brandenburg

FATHERS/MEN'S RIGHTS

Father's Rights: Hard-Hitting & Fair Advice for Every Father Involved in a Custody Dispute - Jeffery M. Leving

Why Men Earn More: The Startling Truth Behind the Pay Gap -- and What Women Can Do About It - Warren Farrell, Ph.D.

Read Excerpts, Watch Why Men Earn More Video Presentation

DADMOM: The Definitive How-to Manual for Custodial Parents -David P. Crowley

Throwaway Dads: The Myths and Barriers That Keep Men from Being the Fathers They Want to Be - Ross D. Parke, Armin A. Brott

Ceasefire : Why Women and Men Must Join Forces to Achieve True Equality- Cathy Young

Divorced Dads : Shattering the Myths - Sanford L. Braver

THE RANTINGS OF A SINGLE MALE:

Losing Patience with Feminism, Political Correctness... and Basically Everything - Thomas Ellis

Equality: A Man's Claim: The Equality Issue from the Male Perspective, and an Ethical Society's Viewpoint - Alan Millard

MEN & MASCULINITY

Legalizing Misandry: From Public Shame to Systemic Discrimination Against Men, Volume II in the trilogy, Beyond the Fall of Man -Paul Nathanson and Katherine K. Young

Spreading Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture, Volume I in the trilogy, Beyond the Fall of Man -By Paul Nathansen and Katherine K. Young

Self-Made Man: One Woman's Journey into Manhood and Back - Norah Vincent

THE RANTINGS OF A SINGLE MALE:

Losing Patience with Feminism, Political Correctness... and Basically Everything - Thomas Ellis

Nothings Wrong: A Man's Guide to Managing His Feelings -David Kundtz

Violence and Gender Reexamined - Richard B. Felson

Good Will Toward Men: Women Talk Candidly About the Balance of Power Between the Sexes -
Jack Kammer

My Soul Said to Me: An Unlikely Journey Behind the Walls of Justice - Robert E. Roberts

It's a Dick Thing: Secret Thoughts of Silent Men - Don Koberg

The Envy of the World: On Being a Black Man in America - Ellis Cose

Fatherloss : How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms With the Deaths of Their Dads - Neil Chethik

How Can I Get Through to You: Reconnecting Men and Women - Terrence Real

The Elder Within: The Source of Mature Masculinity - Terry Jones

A Man You Know is Grieving:12 Ideas for Helping Him Heal from Loss - Tom Golden

Swallowed By A Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing - Tom Golden

If Men Could Talk: Here's What They'd Say - Alon Gratch, Phd.

Growing Yourself Back Up - John Lee

What There Is to Love About a Man - Rachel Snyder

Standup Guy: Masculinity That Works - Michael Segell

I Don't Want to Talk About It : Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression - Terrence Real

Understanding Men's Passages : Discovering the New Map of Men's Lives - Gail Sheehy

The Myth of Male Power - Warren Farrell

Iron John : A Book About Men -Robert Bly

The Sibling Society -Robert Bly

Flying Boy : Healing the Wounded Man - John Lee

Facing the Fire: Experiencing and Expressing Anger Appropriately -John Lee

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire - David Deida

Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man -Sam Keen

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine -
Robert Moore

The Masculine Mystique: The Politics of Masculinity -Andrew Kimbrell

The Prince and the King: Healing the Father-Son Wound : A Guided Journey of Initiation -
Michael Gurian

MEN & RELATIONSHIPS

The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams : Planning Together for Less Stress and More Joy - Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski

The New Intimacy: Discovering the Magic at the Heart of Your Differences -by Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski

Be Loved for Who You Really Are : How the Differences Between Men and Women Can Be Turned into the Source of the Very Best Romance You'll Ever Know- Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski

Opening to Love 365 Days a Year - Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and Jim Sniechowski

The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever - Scott Haltzman

The Man's No-Nonsense Guide To Women: How To Succeed In Romance On Planet Earth - Marc H. Rudov

Being the STRONG MAN a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man - Elliot Katz

Straight Talk for Men about Marriage : What Men Need to Know about Marriage
(And What Women Need to Know About Men) - Marty Friedman

What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works - Michael Gurian

Courting a Woman's Soul: Going Deeper Into Loving and Being Loved - John Lee

EMBRACING YOUR FATHER:

How to Build the Relationship You Always Wanted with Your Dad -Dr. Linda Neilsen

Why Men Don't Listen: And Women Can't Read Maps: How We're Different and What to Do About It - Barbara Pease and Alan Pease

Keys to the Kingdom - Alison A. Armstrong

No More Mr. Nice Guy!: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want In Love, Sex And Life - Robert A. Glover

Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives -Joe Kort

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say : The Myths That Divide Couples and Poison Love - Warren Farrell

Flying Boy III : Stepping into the Mystery - John H. Lee

The Maiden King : The Reunion of Masculine and Feminine - Robert Bly, Marion Woodman

WHAT WOMEN AND MEN REALLY WANT:

Creating Deeper Understanding and Love in Our Relationships -Aaron Kipnis and Elizabeth Herron

Men Talk : How Men Really Feel About Women, Sex, Relationships, and Themselves - Alvin S. Baraff

MEN & SPIRITUALITY

Over the Edge: Journeying Together to Recapture the Heart and Soul of a Man - Jared Feria & Lance Hastings

The Way of the Superior Man : A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire - David Deida

No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women And Children - Paul T. Coughlin

MEN'S HEALTH

Younger Next Year: A Man's Guide to Living Like 50 Until You're 80 and Beyond - Chris Crowley, Henry S. Lodge

Dr. Peter Scardino's Prostate Book: The Complete Guide to Overcoming Prostate Cancer, Prostatitis and BPH - Peter Scardino, M.D.

Breast Cancer Husband : How to Help Your Wife (and Yourself) during Diagnosis, Treatment and Beyond - Marc Silver

"The Men's Club": How to Lose Your Prostate Without Losing Your Sense of Humor - Bert Gottlieb and Thomas J. Mawn, M.D.

The Testosterone Revolution: Rediscover Your Energy and Overcome The Symptoms of Male Menopause - Malcolm Carruthers

The Whole Man Program: Reinvigorating Your Body, Mind, and Spirit After 40 - Jed Diamond

Surviving Male Menopause: A Guide for Men and Women - Jed Diamond

Male Menopause - Jed Diamond

How Men Can Live As Long As Women : Seven Steps to a Longer and Better Life -
Ken Goldberg

NOVELS ABOUT MEN (Fiction and non-fiction)

For My Children - Dror Rofe

Big Russ and Me: Father and Son--Lessons of Life - Tim Russert

Flyboys A True Story of Courage - James Bradley

My Losing Season - Pat Conroy

Ten on Sunday: The Secret Life of Men - Alan Eisenstock

The Bedford boys: One American Town's Ultimate D-Day Sacrifice - Alex Kershaw

Accidental Playboy: Caught In the Ultimate Male Fantasy - Leif Ueland

Ten Things I Learned from Bill Porter - Shelly Brady, William H. Macy

Flags of Our Fathers - James Bradley

The Greatest Generation and The Greatest Generation Speaks - Tom Brokaw

Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man and Life's Greatest Lessons - Mitch Albom

Playing Catch With My Mother : Coming to Manhood When All the Rules Have Changed - Greg Lichtenberg

POETRY

Sleeping in Public -Poetry by John Lee